A Shift in The Works

Ah yes! Many things are starting to change in the Stevens-Nordell clan and on the plus side, they are all positive changes. Several family and friends are aware that I have started a new job (part time work in retail) which I am super stoked about. It is a great distraction from any negative influences or letting my wander into dangerous territory. But most importantly, it is giving me the chance to do something that involves helping people. However, what does this mean for Ben and I as a whole?

Before any conclusions are jumped to, no, we are not pressing pause on our fertility journey. In fact, this is a great opportunity for us to try more ways to increase our fertility and still be busy in our day to day lives. I've had many moments where sitting at home seven days a week can make me go crazy and finding things to keep me "motoring" started to become slim. Therefore, we are still trying to conceive our little miracle angel baby, but maintaining a healthy balance of enjoying marriage and both working jobs we are making careers of.

Another conclusion some people have questioned me about is what this means about spending time together, as a husband and wife. Now it's a given, there will be times when I might be working and Ben is not (i.e. a day off on the weekend...) but this will not in the slightest affect us in a bad way. More than anything, we are a team and both want to be equally having a work life that is balanced so we can schedule proper quality time together. To us, is is very important that we can have our own separate lives that we can talk about when we are together - those moments during dinner together or simply relaxing in bed before going off to sleep.

With every marriage, or any relationship you are in with someone you care about dearly, it is all about balance to keep it healthy. As much as many think it would be amazing to be both earning money from home or working at the same company, you don't want to be getting sick of seeing each other without any room to breathe and be your own person. For a relationship to work, at least for my man and I, we both want to feel we can miss each other, then when we do spend proper quality time together (date nights, a day trip to another town, etc.) it feels more special.

The main point I am trying to get across is, when their is a shift in your life as a family, embrace the positives and understand the benefits of some of the changes. If one or both of you aren't feeling happy about some of the changes, a calm discussion between the two of you should take place of what can be done to rectify the change in your lifestyle xx

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude." -Maya Angelou.